I'd heard of this pamphlet before, but it's starting to inspire some pretty good discussions now. Jim Geraghty over at National Review's Kerry Spot (Will that need a name change now? But then, I thought "20th Century Fox" might update to "21st Century Fox" back in 2001, and they didn't. No need, really. And Kerry is one of those gifts that keeps on...well, you know.) has a couple of good posts on it.
Click here and scroll down for more.I certainly agree with the ideas of being polite and respectful of the local culture. But I would not say that this is a particular failing of Americans. As several correspondents of Geraghty have pointed out, this is often a virtue of traveling Americans, especially in comparison to tourists of other countries. As far as dress, I do dislike the apparent tourist dress code of T-shirts, shorts, and tennis shoes, unless you're out hiking in hot weather or are on the beach. (Of course, those clothes are *really* comfortable in hot weather, and I'll wear them myself. I did it all the time when I was younger.) When touring around the ruins of Mayan cities or visiting cathedrals in Europe, though, I'd prefer to see people a little more conventionally dressed. But again, dressing-down isn't a particular thing with Americans. When my cousin spent a semester studying in Spain, she made a comment that you could really pick out American tourists--they were the ones wearing khaki slacks and denim shirts. "Really? What do the Spaniards wear?", I asked. "T-shirts and too-tight jeans."
So, at least in some situations, it's the Americans who are dressing more nicely even than the local population. Incidentally, I especially like the khaki-and-denim look, myself. It's both nice-looking and comfortable.
I won't comment too much right now on the document itself, aside from pointing out that its title, "World Citizen Guide," is mired in that cosmopolitan mindset I detest. Let me reprint here the bigger points made in it, according to
this Reuters story:
*** Think as big as you like but talk and act smaller. In many countries, any form of boasting is considered rude. Talking about wealth, power or status -- corporate or personal -- can create resentment.
*** Speak lower and slower. In conversation, match your voice level and tonality to the environment and other people. A loud voice is often perceived as bragging. A fast talker can be seen as aggressive and threatening
*** Dress up. You can always dress down. In some countries, casual dress is a sign of disrespect. Check out what is expected and when in doubt, err on the side of the more formal and less casual attire. You can remove a jacket and tie if you are overdressed. But you can't make up for being too casual.
***Listen at least as much as you talk. By all means, talk about America and your life in the country. But also ask people you're visiting about themselves and their way of life. Listen, and show your interest in how they compare their experiences to yours.
"Speak lower and slower," followed by, "match your voice level and tonality to the environment and other people." You know, those two commands are often contradictory. Have you ever been among a bunch of Italians? Canadians? Australians? Have you ever been in a group of mixed nationalities when the subject of soccer came up? Lower and slower gets ignored in those situations.
From an American's perspective, I'd like to issue a polite request to foreigners visiting our country or working here, in the same spirit of the above. Some of these can also be applied to Yankees visiting (or moving to) the South.
(1) Please stop running your mouth on about how you think we're doing everything in our society wrong. Complain about us all you want to when you're by yourselves, but it is quite rude to go into somebody else's country and start poking your nose into their business. Would you visit someone's house and spend the night criticizing his family? It's like that.
(2) No, we Americans don't drink as much (beer, wine, distilled perfume...) as y'all do. Please don't complain when we don't feel the absolute need to get drunk whenever we're all eating out. And no, Taco Bell does not serve vodka at the drive-through. Or inside. I swear, a foreign classmate of mine in college was mystified when he discovered this fact. And when you do wind up being the one person from the lab who's drunk at the end of the night, please keep in mind Point (1), above.
(3) And lower your voice when you do. Really. People over at the other side of the dining room are starting to stare, now.
(4) No, we don't follow soccer. And there's no objective reason we need to. You like it; that's great for you. We have our own sports. Honestly--do Americans visiting Europe feel the need to go on like this about baseball, basketball, or football?
(5) Yes, we have local news on our TV. Lots of it. Far more than we cover the goings-on in Lower Slobovia. This doesn't mean we're ignorant. Things happening right around you are much more your business than what they're doing over there is, and so we pay more attention to it. Plus, I thought you wanted us to stay out of other countries' businesses, anyway.
(6) Listen as much as you talk. Wait--wasn't this one on the Ugly American list? Well, it applies to some foreign visitors. I've listened to you going on and on about how much you dislike everything about us and how we need to do it like you do it. How often have you actually asked
my opinions about anything?
(7) Stop making fun of our religiousness. Sure, your countrymen have fallen into the atheist sinkhole since World War II, but that doesn't make you sophisticated or intelligent. It's part of a slow decay that we can only hope y'all will crawl out of before this generation is out. Do you actually think that you are showing any sophistication when you sneer so? Actually, maybe that is a trait of sophisticates. But it's not a
good trait. It's supremely arrogant, condescending, and rude.
Furthermore, our religiousness is not a vice. It is a great virtue, and it is something which will carry this country through whatever will befall her.
As my wife said to a German friend recently, who was bragging(?) that only half of his country was religious, "Yes, half of your country is religious: they're the Turks, Arabs..." Good point, honey.
(8) To sum up: be polite, and mind your own business. Think of visiting another country (like mine...like anybody's) as being a guest in someone else's home. His country is like his family. Keep your criticisms to yourself, unless you're asked for them.